Your Child Not listening?
Key Tips to Get your Child to Listen
If your child always listens whenever you ask them to do something, then you can stop reading now. Still here? Then you might be interested to know the strategies that will influence your kid to adapt to good listening skills
One of the important keys in parenting is how we give instructions as it is as important as to what we are trying to communicate. Here are ways to make your child hear you and comply to what you say:
Listen to Your Child
Good listening skills are not inborn; they are learnt, just like any other skill. Children don’t understand that it is considered disrespectful to avoid eye contact. If children don’t like what they hear, they easily tune it out and engage themselves in a toy instead. Truth be told that we also do the same thing to them. Modeling listening skills to your kid show them exactly what you want. So whenever you find yourself tuning out when your child is telling a long, possibly nonsensical story, relax and give him your full attention. Ensure you make eye contact and respond to show that you are engaged.
Get Close and Be Quiet
Naturally, when our children don’t listen, we tend to speak until we are yelling. Yelling at our kids makes them shut down, and they are less able to hear and process what you say. Instead of yelling, try to get close to your child and whisper. Peace is an important part of our lives when growing. Rather than raising our voices, it is advisable to get down to the child’s level, gently tap his shoulder, make eye contact and quietly speak to the child. This works like a charm even in situations that were about to go wrong. When we can maintain a peaceful and calm tone of voice, our children can hear us and are more likely to respond respectfully.
Say it Only Once
Think of it this way, every time you repeat yourself, you are training your child to listen whenever it’s the first time to say it. When they know that you will say it eight times, there is a likelihood that they will not pay attention for the first seven times because they are pretty sure that they will hear it again. So when you don’t repeat yourself, they learn that they must pay attention or else they miss crucial information. It is not that if a child genuinely does not hear what you’ve said, you are not supposed to repeat yourself. It is the incessant repetition with no response that brings trouble.
Ask Them to Repeat it-
How can you be sure that your kid heard and understood what you said? Ask them to repeat the request. It is important that you remain relaxed and calm as you ask your child to repeat your words.
Let them know that the repetition is not a punishment, but an attempt to understand that whether your communication is effective. Keep in mind that no one like to be forced to do anything, so it’s a good habit to maintain an inviting tone rather than a demanding tone of voice. By this, you are guaranteed much success.